Paul takes a
very didactic form in this chapter, the first part being something of a
catchall segment. Children, parents,
slaves and masters are all provided with instructions for living.
Sometimes
people joke that they wish life came with instructions. The 10 on stone tablets seemed too hard, the
other 513 even more difficult, and the extra regulations heaped on top of these
by the religious hierarchy made living by the rules seem to be
insurmountable. But then came living by
faith, but in our faith, Paul adds some specific counsel.
Children,
obey your parents. This following Jesus
stuff doesn’t get you off the hook for obedience. It is obedience that leads to a good
life. This goes all the way back to the fifth commandment.
This honor your father and mother stuff is
good stuff with the promise of a good life.
Parents wish this had been hard-wired into our kids in the womb. Our parents probably had the same
thought. But parenting is about bringing up children in the way they
should go. God’s design is that our children learn his
ways from us.
So Paul’s
counsel shifts to the father. He says do
not exasperate your children. There’s a
fun word: παροργίζω (parorgizó)
and it comes with a variety of meanings--Irritate, agitate, provoke, provoke to anger, annoy, vex, and many
others.
The Greek roots mean “from close
beside” and “become angry.” Someone very
close to another person knows exactly what buttons to push to move them to
anger.
Fathers—parents—don’t’ push your kid’s
buttons. This does not mean do not
discipline. It means do not use
manipulation to parent.
As parents, we all know that one thing
that our child really values, and threatening to take it away all the time just
keeps them on edge. Our children should
never doubt that God loves them and their parents love them.
There will surely be consequences for
inappropriate behavior; but as parents we don’t push their buttons to produce
the most antagonizing response. Our
goal—remember, we are the parents in this equation—is to lead our children to
be the people that God made them to be, not to get caught up in some
competition with them. We are the
parent. We lead them, bring them up in
the way they should go.
Many parents say or think, “But my kids
surely exasperate me! I ought to be able
to get them back.”
We need to remember that we are the
parents. We can put our kids on
restriction any time we want on some trumped up charge, but we must not provoke
them to anger by pushing their buttons.
In defense of some bad parenting, but
not in favor of its continuation, we must acknowledge that we live in a society
that rejects most authority and the authority that we often accept is
ungodly. Sometimes parents feel like all
they can do is push their kids buttons to get any sort of compliance from them.
Compliance is a long way from honoring
your father and mother. But remember mom
and dad, our children are either learning from us or from the world and if our
model is the same as the world’s model, then they are not learning God’s model.
In the previous chapter, we were
counseled to be wise. We were admonished not to live as the world
lives. We were charged to make the most
out of every opportunity, and the biggest opportunity to put God’s wisdom into
practice is with our children.
Don’t push them to the limit of what
they can handle; lead them in God’s way.
Don’t provoke them to anger; guide them
to understanding.
Be the wiser person in your
relationship with your children.
Next we come to a part of Paul’s
counsel that doesn’t seem to apply today.
He talks about slaves and masters.
Slavery is a concept that seems repugnant in this 21st
Century, but it is still widespread.
In Paul’s day, some were slaves because
of wars and the spoils of war. Some
became enslaved because of indebtedness.
Ouch!
The latter case seems to have not only
survived but thrived in modern times. The borrower is slave to the lender. The average American family
is $131, 000 in debt. About $15,000 of
that is in credit cards and the rest for our home, vehicles, and for many
student loans.
Don’t think that slavery has left the
building. It has adapted most adeptly to
the modern century.
So how do we apply Paul’s counsel to
our debt to banks and corporations?
How do we live as slaves to our financial masters?
We do it in the same way as men and
women were counseled to live 20 centuries ago.
We live to honor Christ in our servant and slave relationships. We do not want to maintain our slave
status. Paying off our debt surely
honors God and the financial masters of today.
We live up to our side of the agreement into which we entered and we do
it with goodwill knowing that how we live has more to do with our relationship
with Christ than it does with the lender.
Does this pairing of teachings seem
interesting to you?
First Paul talks about bringing up our
children and then about slavery, which in our time generally translates to
debt. Read the proverbs sometime and note
this pairing (Proverbs 22:6-7)
Train
children in the right way,
and when old, they will not stray.
The rich rule over the poor,
and the borrower is the slave of the lender.
and when old, they will not stray.
The rich rule over the poor,
and the borrower is the slave of the lender.
Perhaps one of the best things that we
can do for our children and their children is to bring them up in the way they
should go to include the wise and godly use of money.
While it would be quite unusual to meet
a slave owner in this nation, we do have instructions for these folks that
likely apply to anyone who has subordinates.
Be good to them. No abuse or
threatening language.
Remember both master and servant,
supervisor and subordinate have the same Master in Christ Jesus. Our rank and authority here is very
temporal. Jesus reminded his closest
friends and followers that if we want to be great in the life to come, we must
be the servant of all in this
life.
Paul changes gears from specific
counsel to specific groups of people to some general counsel to everyone that
has said, “I have decided to follow Jesus.”
We need to understand that we wrestle
with our own human nature. We struggle
with the temporal pressures of the world—job, traffic, budget, family
conflicts, busyness, and slow download speeds.
We need to understand that Jesus told
us ahead of time that we would have trouble in this world and that we would be persecuted because we follow him. In fact, Jesus said that we are blessed to be
persecuted for following him.
So we wrestle with our own nature and
the sinful nature of others that don’t like the fact that we follow Jesus, but
we also must be ready to contend with evil.
Previously, Paul counseled us not to
let the sun go down on our anger
so as to give the Devil a foothold. That
was a single strategy for a single avenue of approach for combating the enemy
and not giving in to sin. Now Paul tells
us to be ready for every form of spiritual combat.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand
against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against
flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the
authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual
forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
How do you fight against spiritual
forces of evil? You gear up, cowboy up,
and saddle up, that’s what you do. Those
terms are common to the world, so let’s say we Christian Up!
We put on all of our gear before we
head out to face the day. What gear is
that?
· Belt of Truth
· Breastplate of Righteousness
· Combat Boots are the Gospel of Peace
· Shield of Faith
· Helmet of Salvation
· Sword of the Spirit which is the word of God.
This is an integrated system of body
armor with a sword to boot. It is
integrated. Any one item provides some
capability but we are counseled to put on the whole armor of God.
Obviously, Paul is using figurative
language to explain this integrated defense system; otherwise after someone
confessed their faith we would hand them a helmet.
Sometimes we do give them a sword but Paul
counsels all of us to put on the complete armor of God.
Christian up
and put on all of your combat gear.
The armor is not all that is
integrated. Our prayers are to be
mutually supporting. Yes, we pray for
ourselves, but we also pray for each other.
We are not just praying for people who
have heart attacks, are pending surgery, or who have lost a loved one. We pray that we may not only survive but that
we may stand and stand strong against whatever attacks come our way.
We pray for each other that we may
advance the gospel, that we will proclaim it boldly whatever our circumstances.
We must understand that even on days
where we just expect the typical level of insanity that we know in the world;
we dress for full scale attack.
We must also understand that we go into
a godless world on a mission every day from now until Jesus comes to claim us
or these bodies give out. We take the
gospel and God’s love into the world every day.
On most days, we face apathy and
ambivalence as our main adversaries. On
some days, we may be ridiculed; and on some days, we may be opposed by evil.
We are charged to dress for spiritual
combat every day. We put on the full armor of God daily.
Paul wraps up this chapter and this
letter telling those in Ephesus that Tychicus is headed their way. He probably brought the letter and his coming
permitted Paul to stick to mostly instructional matters in his letter.
The saints in Ephesus would want news
of Paul and even something of an in-person assurance, but that would come from
Tychicus and not this letter.
Paul concludes his letter with a
benediction of peace and grace. He has
issued some serious counsel in this chapter and this letter, but it is counsel
to fellow believers who are ready to grow in grace.
Paul’s counsel to children, fathers,
and those in debt or in authority is about growing in grace. Whatever roles and position that we have in
this life, we can all grow.
So we conclude this letter
understanding where we began—assured of being holy and blameless before the
Lord and ready to grow in grace as we head into the trials and blessings of our
days spent in this age, on this earth, as God’s kids who take a wonderful
message of love into the world.
So let us consider Paul’s counsel,
dress properly for the day ahead, and make the most of every opportunity to
share God’s love and grow in his grace.
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