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Friday, September 6, 2024

Suck it Up, Buttercup

 Read Titus 2

The paths of Paul and Titus crossed more than once, though I don’t think he traveled with Paul but for some short parts of Paul’s third missionary journey.

Paul sent Titus to Corinth on more than one occasion, so he knew he could trust Titus for independent assignments. Paul knew he could trust Titus on the most difficult of assignments.

It’s sort of the you did well with a few things, now I will put you in charge of many things sort of assignment. 

Paul had trusted Titus with business in Corinth, a congregation that surely had plenty of pagan practices, ungodly lifestyles, and a whole swing and a miss on this love business.  Titus had done well with those knuckleheads. He might be the best qualified to deal with those Cretans.

In any case, Paul sent Titus to Crete to finish the work that had begun there. It was far from finished. This was the early to mid-sixties. The temple had not yet been destroyed.

Paul was likely writing from mainland Greece, perhaps from Athens or Corinth. And what did Paul have to say to Titus?

Gentlemen, this is a football.

In 1961 the Green Bay Packers had begun their training camp. Vince Lombardi stood before his players and said: “Gentlemen, this is a football.”

The all-pro wide receiver Max McGee responded, “Could you take it a little slower, coach?”

The thing about Lombardi is that he always began with the basics, even if you were already champions.

Paul is telling Titus that he has to start with the basics. These guys didn’t ever have the law and not much of a moral compass from their culture and genealogy.

Titus, you have to teach men how to be men, conscious of their conduct and aware that they are examples to the younger men.

You have to teach wives to be faithful wives and good mothers. They too must set an example.

Together, the adults—parents—are to bring up their children in the way they should go. Vince Lombardi started with a blank slate each season.

Paul told Titus that some cultural history here will be tough to overcome. Start with the basics.

I have given you this seemingly impossible task, but with God, all things are possible, even ministry to a bunch of Cretans.

In the next service, I will look at how our Western society behaves like a bunch of Cretans than we might want to admit, but for now let’s examine Paul’s specific instructions.

You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.

 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.

Once this is done, you will have laid the groundwork for raising children. The man must be the head of the household but he is not the boss. He should lead his family to God and to godly living.

Both husband and wife are to be an example to their children and bring them up in the way they should go.

Paul told Titus, when the going gets tough, get back to basics.

Amen.

 

Parents: Leading is better than Sending

 Read Titus 2

Here we go again, more directions to follow.

Teach the older men to stay on an even keel, living lives worthy of respect. Teach them to use the sound mind that God gave them.  Challenge them to stay the course and to press on towards a godly life.

Teach the older women to be respectful and mindful of what they say. I’m sure that gossip thrived as much two millennia ago as it does now. The whole like and share business was just a little more complicated.

Teach them to watch what they drink and to be good examples to their children. Children need to see a godly model of marriage in the home.

We will talk more about children in a moment. These seem like sensible guidance for all mankind. Let’s move it along. Next chapter.

What’s new here?

These sound like sensible instructions to people who had been pagans and who had tried to please false gods These might be good instructions for someone wondering if there was a God.

But these were Cretans! You have heard the term. Well, Paul left Titus on Crete to minister to these new believers. They were, as Paul said:

They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. They are detestable, disobedient and unfit for doing anything good.

Paul was essentially telling Titus that this is the worst duty station ever, and it’s all yours. Get these Cretans in shape so they can run their race of faith.

OBTW—Suck it up buttercup.

So you didn’t get left in Ephesus, Philippi, or even among the pagan philosophers in Athens. You are not on the short list for that opening in Honolulu.

Crete! Are you kidding me?

Can you think of a time where God sent his people into a land of g odlessness and depravity? Sure you can.

The Promised Land was a gift, but it was full of godless people with godless practices.  How did God address this? He sent the law via Moses and he drove out the armies of the godless occupants of the land. If they stayed to fight, they died.

If you have read the laws in Leviticus 18, you might wonder, “Did God really have to tell us that?”

His answer was that the people in the land now have done all of these things and they disgust me. You are to be holy as your God is holy.

So Joshua was sent into the Promised Land to drive out its pagan residents. He was to leave nobody untouched. If they ran away, they might live. If they remained, they would die.

Joshua never balked at the task given to him. He was the choose this day guy and his choice was clear. He would serve the Lord. We saw a glimpse of this when Moses sent the spies into the land.

Joshua and Caleb were ready to take the land by the power of God. Ten other men on the same reconnaissance mission saw an enemy too great for them to defeat.

No matter what the obstacle before us, the God inside of us is much greater. Now back to Crete and Titus.

The adults on this island have gone beyond rough edges and they are a challenge, but you can reach their children even if the adults act like a bunch of Cretans.

Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.

So, men and women together, live wholesome lives. Be good examples. Practice self-control. Make temperate language your lexicon.

Then you will be in good shape to bring up a child in the way he or she should go. Do you want victory in your community?

Live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be a good example. Bring up kids the right way. That’s about as straightforward as it gets and it embraces the full biblical witness.

So, suck it up, buttercup, and lead those Cretans into Christian living. Good advice for two millennia ago but does it mean anything here and now?  Come on, we don’t live in a community of Cretans, do we?

How would I know?

Here’s one of my indicators. About 20-30 times a year, someone calls me and asks if we help with power bills or water bills or some other expense.

I tell them that for those who don’t have a church family, we send money through the Ministerial Alliance to the Western Oklahoma Family Care Center for those purposes.

Sometimes the answer I get is that my kids go to that church.

They do not have the dissonance that should accompany that statement. Their minds should be conflicted.

I don’t gather to worship God but I do send my kids.

The whole don’t stop gathering together business doesn’t register. This should be a conflict in the minds of one who says they follow God.

Paul told Titus: They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. I can think of anything more 2024 America than that statement.

They claim to know God but you would never know by looking at ‘em.

We have been down the vending machine road a few times in connection with several topics.  That’s too transactional. I came up with the metaphor and targeted my writing on the transactional and transformational nature of our actions to faithful believers.

Eventually, I wrote a couple things to the parents. I have put out something like this for the past several years.

Dear Mom or Dear Dad,

 

I want you to know how much I enjoy going to church.  Really, I don’t go to church.  I am a part of the church.  The church is that group of people who follow Jesus.  I learned that and like it.

I wanted to say thank you for letting me go.  I will probably go a few more years before I stop.  It’s not a thing that older people do.  It can’t be for real or you would go too, but it’s fun for now.

 

I believe in God and in Jesus and that he died to take away my sins, but that can’t mean too much or you would lead me to worship him.  It can’t be that important.

 

We make it to most of the ball games and town events and never miss a weekend of bingeing on movies.  We go to the lake and never miss a game on the big screen.  If this worshiping God was important, we would do that too.  I trust you that it can’t be that important.  I trust you!

 

I know that your life is tough, and you are tired most of the time.  I guess that is what I will be soon, once I stop this Jesus stuff.  Really, what’s the point.  You have your reasons not to go.  I will just use your reasons in a few years.  I will be just like you.

 

I really enjoy the Christmas presents and other cool stuff that you get me, but all of that stuff just wears out over time.  They tell me that Jesus wants us to live forever with him.  I wish that were true, but I’m sticking with you and not buying this God loves me stuff.

 

I will keep going to worship and classes for now so you can have a break, but don’t worry.  One day I will be just like you and skip all of this God is love nonsense.  I know it can’t be true.  You tell me that you love me and these church folks tell me that God loves me.  I want to believe but I won’t betray you.  I will be just like you and start making my list of reasons not to give up my Sunday mornings to worship God.

 

Don’t worry.  One day I will have a standing list of reasons at the ready as to why I can’t go or participate or serve God in any way.  I may take some of those excuses and expand them for work when I have a job or for my own kids to use at school when some teacher challenges them to be their best.  Don’t worry, I will be faithful to what you have taught me.

 

Just to make sure that I don't backslide into the ways of the church, I will criticize those who beckon me to come and worship the Lord or challenge people to respond to God's grace by love and obedience.  I won't fall into that trap.  I will stay on the sidelines with you and fight to remain apathetic and ambivalent about life. Maybe, I will become fatalistic and hopeless and more self-centered so I am not tempted to return to following Jesus.

 

Santa, the Easter Bunny, and even the Tooth Fairy got benched eventually. Jesus can join them soon enough. I know this is kid stuff, but…

 

If you don’t mind, I would like to keep going for a little while longer.  These people who are the church are always kind and loving to me.  They smile when they see me.  Most give me a hug.  They know what God says about just about everything.  They actually believe what God says.  It’s really cool stuff, but don’t worry, I won’t let you down.  I will stay away and be content in my reasons for not going soon enough.

 

I want to be just like you.

 

Love, Your Kid.

 

I’m just talking about gathering for worship. I haven’t even mentioned the tithe, the power of believers gathered in prayer, or iron sharpening iron—one believer sharpening another as we follow the Lord.

 

Taking the yoke of our Master , learning from him, and putting his words into practice are still a bridge too far at the moment.

 

I’m just talking about getting parents to lead their children to worship. It might seem like I am spending a lot of time on one thing. But in this build your own god world, knowing the one True God is important. Coming to worship him is even more important.

 

So, why do I need to know what you are telling the lost and disconnected? Because they need to hear it from you as well.

 

They expect it from me, but when you say this is important, it’s a different sort of endorsement.

 

People expect the preacher to preach.  They expect him to teach. They expect him to say what he says even if they don’t want to hear it.

 

The preacher is the one whom you expect to know the Bible. You expect him to study and pray and teach and more.

 

But when you say it is important, it takes on a different value. You add the value of personal experience. You are navigating the world and trying very hard to do it God’s way.

 

You value your children and are committed to making sure they are brought up in the way they should go.

 

Most of you have a secular workplace and navigate your employment seeking to keep God first in your life.

 

You get it! Our conduct and example are important. We believe. We want to follow Jesus. We want our children to know the Lord and the abundant life he has in store for us.

 

Now, share it.  Share with those whom we do not see that seeing them with their children on Sunday mornings or Wednesday evenings is important. Leading your children to worship is important.

 

THIS IS IMPORTANT!

 

So many people who come seeking financial help tell me that they would do anything for their babies. I get some get me away from this guy looks when I respond, “Would you lead them to God? Would you lead them to worship? Would you lead them to serve the Lord and obey him?

 

There is a difference in directing and leading. There is a difference between sending and leading.

 

I was blessed to have served as a commissioned officer of United States Marines for over 20 years. I only needed to know 5 words.  They were: Take the hill!

 

All of that time in college and all I really needed to know was 5 words. Some of the more analytical and mathematical types are thinking, that’s only 3 words, but are not sure if they should say anything or not. That’s how you get roped into singing a special or filling the pulpit.

 

Yes, that was only 3 of the 5 words. The other 2 are the most important.

 

Follow Me!

 

Leadership by example is the best form of leadership. We need to practice this in how we live. We should be excellent examples.

 

We should be the model for bringing up a child in the way he or she should go.

 

We should be telling everyone that their relationship with God matters. Obeying God matters. Taking his yoke matters. Putting his words into practice matters.

 

There is a lot to being a faithful disciple but some people just need to get started by gathering together as believer on a regular basis.

 

So many need to lead their families to the Lord.

 

How do we do this?

 

Not by pointing a finger of condemnation and judgment, but by extending our arms in invitation.

 

We invite because we are commissioned to, but also because our hearts compel us to tell others this is important.

 

I’m talking mostly to men, but also to all the adults in the household, when I say lead your children to worship and service and abundant life.

 

Teach your children to grow in the grace of God.

 

One of the most important things we who have brought children into the world or taken on the role of parent via another route is to lead your children to God through Christ.

 

Teach them to love, obey, honor, worship, and serve, God by proclaiming Jesus is Lord and following him as his disciple.

 

This is important!

 

The world says to gratify yourselves. God’s word says to love God, please God, worship God, serve God, Obey God, and put the words of our Master into practice.

 

There is joy in living a life that brings glory to God’s name. The world does not want you to know this.  We are to love God, serve God, obey God

 

I have heard most of the excuses for not being able to do this. I started numbering them. I am up to 2234 as of the end of August.

 

How do I respond to all of those excuses?  It’s usually a one size fits all.

 

We do what’s important to us.

 

We do what is important to us.  If it is important to us, we will find a way.

 

If you want that ticket to this year’s Super Bowl. You will find a way to score the ticket.

 

If you need extra memory for the video games that you play on your computer. You will find a way to get the extra RAM chips.

 

If you really need that extra tat on your arm, you will find a way to get inked.

 

If you really will do anything for your children, then do it. Start by leading them to God through Jesus and then get them to worship, Christian education, serving others in love, obeying the one true God, and choosing to follow Jesus in response to God’s love, then do these things.

 

Start with coming to worship, then education, then service, and then you are on your way to the joy of the Lord.

 

These are important. Now make them important to you. That’s how simple our message is.

 

We don’t have to take the hill. Jesus did that for us, but we are called to follow Jesus. We are called to make disciples.

 

We are to tell others to follow us to the One that they will want to follow for all of their years. Just sending your kids tells them that this worship stuff is not important to you.

 

God is good. God is love. God loves you. God has good plans for you.

 

God wants to see you leading your family to worship week after week. He wants to see you and all who call upon his name in this community in a house of worship on Sundays, Wednesdays, or whenever the body is gathered to worship and serve God.

 

This is our message and it is important!

 

Amen.

Thursday, February 24, 2022

The Parable of the Talents & Children

  Read Matthew 25:14-30

Read Proverbs 22:6

You have heard many perspectives on this parable from me over the past years.  This will not be a recap.  You might get a little review in the next service.

I will pose the question that I always offer.

What did you do with what God gave you?

I have charged you to examine your time, talents, and treasures.  These are standard stewardship categories.  I have challenged you to answer this question in the context of what did I do with the commission or the gospel that God gave me?

We have looked at how fear can debilitate if you take your eyes off of the Master and look at the storm. We have talked about how people overcome great obstacles when they set their fear aside.

This morning, I ask that you consider the question of what did I do with what God gave me in the context of children, both your own and those who somehow have been entrusted to us.

We are counseled to bring up a child in the way he or she should go—let’s call that God’s way.  The promise is that later in life they will still be living in God’s way.

The promise doesn’t say that somewhere along the way they won’t venture into the everything else, but that later on, they will be living God’s way.  That later on is when they are making just about all of their own life decisions.

But what about now? Did we put our Master’s trust in us to work?

Did we bring up our children in the way they should go so that they would produce a return for the Master?

What return?  Will their lives bring glory to God?

Let’s phrase it this way?  Did we bury the talent that God gave us—the gift of being parents—in the ground?  Who buries such a gift in the ground?

Let’s put it this way?  Did we ever have a day or two or a week or a month that we just needed to get through?  We just needed to survive.

Did we ever live a day where we didn’t teach our children something about God’s love and from his holy word?

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.  These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.  Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.  Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.  Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Does that cover what we should do?

It’s the option that the third servant might have taken.  He could have put his master’s money on deposit with the bankers and at least received a little interest from it.  It’s the minimum.

Anything less is burying our Master’s trust in the ground.

As parents, we look for the gifts and talents that God has placed in our children.  Mostly we look for all-star athletes, sometimes for academic gits, and sometimes for something in the arts.

It’s good that we know our children well enough to see what gifts and talents they have, but our charge is to bring them up in the way they should go—in God’s way.

What if you are blessed with a kid who will be the next Michael Jordan or Olga Korbut?  Will they know how to handle being blessed with such gifts?  Will success lead them into the everything else?

Our job as parents is not to make sure that our kid gets an athletic scholarship to OU or an academic scholarship to OSU, to get a real education.

Our job is to make sure that they know the Lord and his ways and that they seek him and his kingdom and his righteousness above all things.

If they are doing that, their God-given gifts will be manifested in such a way that brings glory to God.

That doesn’t mean that you stop coaching the baseball team or football team or helping out with the academic team.  It means that every day you invest God’s word in your children and every day you are an example of God’s love.

That goes for your own children and those that we get to borrow from time to time.  Our Wednesday night investments in setting children on a path that leads to God’s way is so important. That small amount of time may be the only time they hear about God’s love and his ways.

It also means that when the world has taken everything we have for that day and we just want to collapse into our beds, we ask ourselves if we invested in our children today.

Children, contrary to popular belief, you do not have to make this a difficult task for your parents.  That can mean do your chores and homework without being asked, but it also means more.

When they are so very tired and perhaps stressed and even frazzled, ask them to share something about God with you.

Ask them to help you with the memory verse.

Ask them to tell you about God’s love.

Don’t worry, God will give them the strength that they need to make this investment in you.

Amen.

Saturday, December 11, 2021

The Borrower is Slave to the Lender

 Read Proverbs 22

In the second half of this chapter, there is a section that is called the sayings of the wise.  We won’t address it today, but it will be our focus for the two weeks to follow.  For now, we will start with a little verse by verse.

There is God’s Way and there is everything else:  blessings-minefields, wise-foolish, righteous—wicked, press on towards the goal—wander aimlessly. Let’s not forget life—death. Narrow and wide.

Solomon prompts us to consider many dichotomies, but he is not exclusively an either/or sort of guy.  He has some literary versatility.  Sometimes he does the A-B statements. It’s a one thing builds upon, sets us up for, or intensifies the argument with another statement.

Here’s one thing that builds upon another.

A good name is more desirable than great riches;

    to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.

We have been here before.  Wisdom is good.  It is more desirable than silver or gold. We have seen that thought built upon several times thus far.

We understand that God sees the heart, but people see your example.  We have talked earlier about how the simple see the negative example of the wicked and foolish to include some very severe punishment, and they notice the positive examples of the wise as well.  The simple are not lost.  They can learn.

We have used other terms for the simple—naïve and vulnerable.  They were likely not brought up in the way they should go, but they are not lost either.

They probably were not brought up in the way they should go, but they see our examples. We have been down this road before, but this quip of wisdom tells us that our good example brings us blessings as well. 

Our good example is not only for the simple, but a blessing for us as well.

While our esteem is truly vested in the Lord and who he made us to be; living as the person he made us to be reinforces this Christlike model.  When someone mentions your name and the words godly, loving, righteous, wise, generous, truthful, or other such attributes are attached, that reinforces the self-esteem that we know in being a child of God.

It’s an affirmation that we are on the right track.  Here is one that’s hard to debate.

Rich and poor have this in common:

    The Lord is the Maker of them all.

The Hebrew language falls short in that it doesn’t have a word for Duh.  Solomon threw out some easy ones here and there. The Lord is maker of them all.

The thought can be pursued to reinforce our understanding of God’s sovereignty, but for most who are pursuing wisdom, that’s not an issue. We have long accepted God’s sovereignty.

Solomon can’t go too long without proffering another dichotomy.

The prudent see danger and take refuge,

    but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.

The experienced point man immediately notices the terrain ahead that has great potential for ambush.  He stops the patrol and awaits orders from the patrol leader.

The inexperienced point man just knows that nobody is shooting at him now, not realizing that he is heading for the kill zone.  In fact, he may start singing a song as he walks into a very bad situation.

I know that I promised more car wreck and stroke examples in my sermons, but I got this one as a Black Friday special.

The simple can’t see existential risk.  They are vulnerable to the adulterous woman, the woman known as Folly, and danger in general.

Solomon does offer a parallel for the wicked.

In the paths of the wicked are snares and pitfalls,

    but those who would preserve their life stay far from them.

God’s way – Everything else

Blessings - Minefields

It’s the whole concept of all of the minefields are in the everything else.  There may be struggles and even suffering in doing things God’s way.  Jesus told us ahead of time that we would have trouble in the world.  Being persecuted for following Christ reminds us that the world knows that we have chosen Christ and rejected the evil that governs the world.

Jesus said when we find ourselves being persecuted by the world, we find ourselves in good company.  The prophets were in the same boat.

Now it’s back to another A-B statement.  You may or may not have noticed but you are very familiar with this concept of the A-B statement.  We faithfully say one aloud every Sunday.

What am I talking about? We will jump to John 3.

The background is that Jesus has been lecturing Nicodemus.  He told him that everyone who believes in the Son of Man may have eternal life in him.  We get that.  But it is the follow-on that we know best.  It begins with the Greek word Gar.

It’s a word that tells us a thought is continued.  In the context of this gospel, the thought intensifies.  You know it.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

Now for some of you, you might realize that Tom is not as crazy as you thought.  Others will never be convinced, but consider the next verse.  What’s the first word?  It’s Gar. It’s For.

For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.

You know this A-B pattern.  You have seen a lot of couplings.  You see them in the Psalms some but you find many in the proverbs.  Some are dichotomies given in a positive coupled with a negative.  You got these from the beginning.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge,

    but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

Considering the proverbs in full context, the wise love knowledge, wisdom, instruction, and discipline.  Fools don’t.

Those are what we have seen the most of, but Solomon has some more of the A-B couplings.  Here’s one.

Humility is the fear of the Lord;

    its wages are riches and honor and life.

We know the fear of the Lord brings us to knowledge, wisdom, discipline, and instruction.  It’s good stuff.  We know that the fear of the Lord is the beginning, not the destination, but if we start out on God’s way, we will get to perfect love casts out fear.

Solomon goes on to note that our fear of the Lord will be manifest in our humility. Because we know the Lord is sovereign—there are none that are like him or come close to him—we are humble.  God made us and loved us more than we can comprehend, and when we had fallen, he redeemed us. 

We have talked many times about thankfulness being a part of who we are as this new creation in Christ.  Now consider that while we are bold in our faith and ministry, we remain humble knowing all that the Lord has done for us, even when we didn’t deserve it.

As is often the case in our relationship with God, humbling ourselves before him produces a bounty for us.

its wages are riches and honor and life.

We know this concept.

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

When we put God first in all things, he blesses us with things that the godless people have made into their gods. I have given you the theological term for that before—cool beans.

Now we come to 2 verses that our American society has skipped or glossed over or just ignored on purpose. You know them.  You are blessed to know them.  Your children are blessed that you know them.

Start children off on the way they should go,

    and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

The rich rule over the poor,

    and the borrower is slave to the lender.

Many of us have lived through the I will let the kids decide for themselves if they will go to worship or Sunday school.  I will let them decide for themselves.  It’s their lives, right?

Yes, these are their lives but for a time those lives have been entrusted to you.

Many of you were blessed to have gone through drug programs as a child.  Your parents drug to Sunday school. They drug to worship.  You were drug to VBS.

Yes, I know the correct tense is dragged, but we don’t have drag programs.

The promise for bringing up a child in the way he or she should go is later on they will be on the right path.  Later on, they will be living in the God’s way and not the everything else.

That doesn’t mean that they get to skip the teenage years.   We have read many proverbs about how our children are such blessings and how living in God’s way honors us and how they are our joy.  For those whose children live in the everything else, they can also bring trouble to our households.

The benefit of this proverb is not only for our children but for us as well. Living out this proverb gets a little tougher each year.  When my kids were in their formative years, nobody would have dared to say, let them pick their own gender.

This thought process has not overtaken us, but the fact that it is given a voice in the public domain is disturbing.

For those raising children now or who know they will be in the near future, this proverb requires your commitment now.  I know that sometimes children are a surprise, but the commitment to bring them up in the way they should go is something you need to embrace now.

If I haven’t offended anyone yet, standby.

The rich rule over the poor,

    and the borrower is slave to the lender.

The rich ruling over the poor sounds so mean.  Why does Solomon want the rich to rule over the poor?  He is not advocating.  He is simply communicating a fact of life.

We have talked before that there is nothing wrong with money.  The love of money leads to all sorts of problems that get you out of the living God’s way mode into the everything else, but money is just money.

It’s sort of like the admonitions against drunkenness.  There is nothing evil about alcohol.  Jesus enjoyed wine with his close friends.  He made the best wine ever when his mom put him on the spot.

It’s not the alcohol.  It’s the relationship with alcohol.  Who is the master?

It’s the same question for money.  Who is the master?

Solomon is saying here’s a fact of life.  Money gives you influence.  More money gives you more influence.  Money talks. Watch a crime show:  Follow the money.  Wonder how your politician voted the way he did:  follow the money.  Money talks. It’s not a modern concept.

Now we come to another fact of life that we have ignored for too long.  The borrower is slave to the lender.

We don’t talk about slavery anymore.  That’s old news.  Nobody can own another person.  If that’s what you believe then know that you have been brainwashed.  People own people even in this modern century.  It’s considered indentured servitude, but essentially people have sold themselves into slavery.

Want to see it in person?  Go to an oil-rich country in the Middle East and see who the servants are.  Now after a dozen years or so of being a servant, they might be set free to make it on their own, if their owners were so inclined.  It’s real, but that is not really our application of this verse.

In this country, we are addicted to debt.  We want it now and we get it now.  Credit cards and store accounts are easy ways to get things that we can’t afford and they have been around for decades.

We want something and we want it now and then suddenly it's no longer a want, but our minds have turned it into a need.  Oh, I need that.  We need that. We don’t have the money to get it but we have a credit card.

I have counseled people with 3 payday loans who were angry that they couldn’t get another one.  How could anyone make a regulation as to how many payday loans you can have? They were not angry at me, at least at first.  They were angry that someone had imposed a restriction on their easy money.

Easy money is all around us and we can lose sight that one day, someone will come to collect, yes, with interest. 

Throw student loans on top of that and let the fun begin.  I am not against student loans.  They can be helpful.  When I went to college, I took out a loan from my hometown bank and paid my tuition.  I paid off the loan by the end of the semester and then took a new one and by the time I graduated, I had no debt when I graduated.

Today, we see kids with $50,000, $100,000 and a quarter million dollars of student loan debt.  How can they have so much debt?  It was too easy to get.  There was no sanity check on either end.

Did the lender even check to see that the student’s degree was in Underwater Basket Weaving?

The problem is that the lender wants his money back with interest and from what I have seen the rates are not that great, but the loan is easy to get.

Credit cards are just as bad.  If you max out one card, just use another, and another, and another. It’s easy money, until it’s time to pay up.

It’s the same question.  Who is master?  If you are not master over your money, it will master you.  Debt will enslave you. 

The only debt we must have is to God and he tells us to repay it by loving one another.

We must understand that there is liberty in desiring less.  We don’t desire less righteousness.  We don’t desire less wisdom.  We don’t desire less mercy and favor.

We desire less selfishness.  We desire to be less self-centered and more self-controlled.  We want the liberty that comes from desiring what we need to meet our needs, tithe, and bless others.  We want to put immediate gratification behind us.  It is too often that first step towards debt.

Sometimes, just when you think you are the master in your relationship with money and don’t buy things you can’t afford, you come to that Amazon One-Click button.  It’s just so easy.

We desire a heart that seeks God and his kingdom and his righteousness and trusts God to bless us for seeking him above anything else in our lives.

We desire less of the things that the godless have made into their gods and more of what God has called us to seek.  There is liberty in seeking less of the world and more of God, and just for good measure, God throws in those worldly blessings anyway.

Here is what I want you to chew on over lunch today.  Is there a relationship between these 2 proverbs similar to what we have seen elsewhere or are they just stand-alone quips of wisdom?

Start children off on the way they should go,

    and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

The rich rule over the poor,

    and the borrower is slave to the lender.

By the fact that I challenge you with this, you might think that I suspect there is a strong relationship between bringing up a child God’s way and the godly mastery of money—which includes debt. 

Think on it.  Pray on it.  Act on it.

Amen.